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Why We Hate Change

Over the 100,000 plus years we and our brains have been evolving. During that time, our minds have grown past our primitive lizard brains and as such have brought us intelligence; which in turn has allowed humans to accomplish some fantastic things. Even with all that time and evolution, we and our brains are still guided by these four most important motivators: avoiding threats, minimizing energy, seeking certainty (reducing risk) and obtaining rewards (increasing pleasure). It is easy to see why these four conditions motivate us not to change, because change usually involved reducing certainty while simultaneously increasing risk and expending energy, often without any guarantee of obtaining a reward. Essentially, due to in a large part to our primordial past, when we find ourselves confronted with change, either on a personal level or say at your company, all the fears from our lizard brain are triggered. So, how can we get past those fears and anxieties that our gene...

Forever Cursed

Fill your head with anger and hatred; Fill your heart with bitterness and rage; Your soul is consumed with vile feelings. The love you wanted was in your arms but escaped because you could not come half-way. And now, it is gone forever never to return into your life. You are lazy and selfish and stupid. You deserve neither affection nor comfort for your actions are neither noble nor honorable. You are destined to live a life of worry and doubt; unfulfilled and wanting; desperate and lacking; Because you cannot ever love or be loved. You bring this curse upon yourself for you stay huddled in the valley of a dreamless day to day existence whose only purpose is the preservation of an illusionary sense of security and safety. You fear the adventure of finding true, deep, passionate Love. You fear going into the unknown and the unexplored. You have given up the dream of what may lie ahead on the heights of tomorrow for a perpetual nightmare of endless days and nights f...

Until You Win... (motivation)

Sometimes, as we move through life, a few of us get lost..and need a little piece of motivation to show us what it takes to..be the authentic you. For entrepreneurs, this might happen a bit more often than not, but for all of us, we always need a bit of encouragement. Yes, we all go through tough times, and we have a choice.. go forward or to give up.. I pray for everyone .. to keep going. We all want to be something..but to get there ..you sometimes need to just believe in yourself, believe in what you are doing, in the great art you are making, to the world you are changing. Here is a great video and transcription that I hope helps. Where have you been? Why are you here? ..and where are you going? You look at your life, you look what you produce. Is it giving you what you want? Are you living on purpose? Are you living your dream? Are you acting on your ideas? Are you doing all you can do? Have you gotten comfortable? Are you procrastinating? Are you evading your o...

Rise and Shine

This is a great motivational piece that I stumbled upon.. it is good for athletes, artists, and entrepreneurs.. learn it well... It's 6:00 AM and your hand can't make it to the alarm clock before the voices in your head start telling you that it's too early, too dark, and too cold to get up out of bed. Aching muscles lie still in rebellion, pretending not to hear your brain commanding them to move. A legion of voices are shouting their unanimous permission for you to hit the snooze button and go back to dreamland. But you didn't ask their opinion. The voice you chose to listen to is one of Defiance. A voice that said there was a reason you set that alarm in the first place. So sit up, put your feet on the floor, and don't look back because we've got work to do. Welcome to the Grind. For what is each day but a series of conflicts between the right way and the easy way. 10,000 streams fan out like a river delta before you, each one promising the path of le...

32 Traits Happy People Possess

Everybody wants to "be" happy, but do you know what it takes to be happy?  Really, happiness is not found, but discovered through a little be of effort and work.  Most of that work is on ourselves and sadly we often do not know where or how to start on getting happy.  Lucky for you  I love short lists, and lifted many of these from 30 Traits Happy People Have in Common (if you want more info)...  Here they are..Happy People... 1. Find Good in EVERY Situation 2. Create Their Own Happiness 3. Are Ambitious 4. Have Clarity in Their Wants 5. Ask the Right Questions 6. Rarely Complain 7. Do Not Procrastinate 8. Face their Fears 9. Do Not Blame Others 10. Maximize their Potential 11. Avoid Toxic People 12. Take Calculated Risks (lots of them) 13. Deal with Problems Quickly 14. Are Solution Focused 15. Take Action When Needed 16. Are Life-Long Learners 17. Have a Sense of Humility 18. Manage Their Emotions 19. Work Through Pain 20. Work and Look...

Edge Cases and Why we Seemed Smarter Long Ago

Fifty-five years is a long time: 3 generations, and a lot has happened since 1956 . Lots of good stuff, civil rights, walking on the moon, the computer, etc. These are great things to be sure, but along the way, something happened. Some "misbehavior" that on the surface would be an "edge case," meaning it happens so infrequently and in such small numbers that NO ONE should notice, began to take over our common sense and ability to judge. For an example, I will use what it was like in high school in 1956 versus today, and you will get my point. HIGH SCHOOL -- 1956 vs. 2012 Scenario 1: Jack goes quail hunting before school then pulls into the school parking lot with his shotgun in his truck's gun rack. 1956 - Vice Principal comes over, looks at Jack's shotgun, goes to his car and gets his shotgun to show Jack. 2012 - School goes into lock down, FBI called, Jack hauled off to jail and never sees his truck or gun again. Counselors calle...

When You Know Too Much (humor)

As you know, I like being informed and have been guilty spreading some falsehoods over the web due in fact for how easy it is to do. I now see what this has done over the years to some of my good female friends (and male) as indicated in the email I received the other day from Kimberly. Funny to see them all in one place! I hope you enjoyed the absurdities as much as I! Here they are : I no longer open a bathroom door without using a paper towel, or have the waitress put lemon slices in my ice water without worrying about the bacteria on the lemon peel. I can’t go to Wal*mart without wearing blinders for fear of seeing butt cracks and other things that might blind me! You know who you are that sends me these pictures! I laugh until I have to go to Wal*mart for more depends. I can't use the remote in a hotel room because I don’t know what the last person was doing while flipping through the adult movie channels. I can’t sit down on the hotel bedspread because I can only imag...

Fear Is The Mind Killer

I was watching the movie "Dune", by Frank Herbert the other day and there is a very famous line known as the Litany against Fear that goes like this: “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." The reason why this is so important is that most people do not make the right decisions about thier careers or companies MOSTLY out of fear. They are afraid of being wrong, of failure and rejection, or making themselves better, of growing, or of the unknown, or of having to start over, or of really getting the success they deserve. Right now the Economy is in the grips of FEAR. Companies are afraid to hire employees, make purchases, create new products, start new ventures. Governments are afraid of doing somethi...