While “wishing” for abundance is not a prescribed method of achieving it, having a positive attitude of success is. The first thing to do is stop complaining and being negative about your situation. You might not even think you are being negative, but if you look at what you do when there is stress in your life, you might find yourself wallowing in your problems and not focusing on a solution or action plan. You also most likely have a group of people who throw you a pity party every time something goes wrong, which if you are hanging with these types (see Associate with the Right People), is more often than not. You do this because you want to feel better about yourself, instead of actually making yourself better. Sadly, this pattern throws you into a negative downward spiral that is hard to break free of unless you stop associating with negative people who are essentially emotionally stunting you and your success.
“Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear,” as Norman Vincent Peale stated. Just wishing for success will never make it happen. The great divider of those who discover abundance and those that do not, is action. Now, before you act, you will need a plan. And a well thought out plan takes some thought and calculating. So, set aside some time to really think about what you can do today to get you to your success down the road. And once you have developed that plan, you will need to adhered to if you ever want a chance of reaching your true abundance. Action is the key to success, but action without a plan is just wasted effort. There is absolutely nothing more important than being proactive.
OK, you did not develop your personality and idiosyncrasies in a day, and believe it or not, you not going to fix them in one either. If you want to change your self-sabotaging thinking and behaviors, you have to realize that this is going to be more like a marathon than a sprint, and ultimately will be a life-long process. Now, I am not saying you have to spend 8 hours a day working on this, but you do have to dedicate some time everyday on bettering YOU! That could include getting mentoring, centering yourself with meditation, changing your diet, or just finding some time to reflect on what you are doing. As an aside, make sure you get a dose of daily exercise that is strenuous to make you sweat. Not only is it good for your general health, the endorphins help with your mental and emotional well being as well.A healthy body is a temple where you soul can dwell, and sick body is a prison.
If you want to be a winner, do not hang around with losers. Losers bring winners down. Ben Glass notes, “You are the average of the five people you hang out with the most,” so if you are not where you want to be, look at the people you hang around with, and 1, 2, 3 or 5 of them may be blocking your path to abundance. You have to get rid of negative people. You have to get rid of people who just want to take from you. You have to get rid of people who are cra-cra and only bring drama and chaos into your life. I have seen it numerous times that a person with the potential to be a winner is associating with a cadre of losers, and they are stuck in the loser twilight zone. As Dan Cotter states, “Winners make sacrifices, losers make excuses.” Your sacrifice will be jettisoning those losers.